Ladder theory of dating
Some of the appeal of a Bible or the collected works of a big name author is the sense that amidst all the chaos and disparate sources of knowledge, someone has taken the trouble to distill, to compress, to say what is essential.
In a world overflowing with information, what we most need is curation.
I just think there are more men than women who are okay with low-investment, low-return, that’s all. I remember reading somewhere that it was about 1 in 6 women vs. • 90% of the self-help market in bookstores is for women.
Seriously, apart from “The Game” have you ever seen a relationship book for men that’s sold in airport bookstores? Women – at least my clients – can only date .0001% of men.
Some of the things I hate about being single are (in no particular order): lack of love, affection and emotional support; not having someone to go on vacation with; not having someone to share domestic tasks with; being excluded from social gatherings because I don’t have a partner; not having someone to talk to at home on a day to day basis; having to cope with the financial burden of being single (apartment, bills etc.); not having a regular source of quality sex available.
Surely these things apply to men just as much as women?
So yeah, a man’s ability to separate sex and love is another valid reason he’s not terribly upset when he’s single. You can tell who these men are because when they’re not with you, you don’t exist. We want someone who is attractive, who doesn’t criticize us or tell us how much we need to change, who we can spend lots of time with without getting bored, who we can bring around our friends and families with minimal incident. They’ll call you once a week to hook up and that’s all. They have also been largely restricted to words, images being too expensive and film impossible.The Book of Life is being written by many people over a long time; it keeps changing and evolving.
If this is the case, why aren’t men jumping up and down with excitement when they meet someone they connect with, like we are?