Dating for parents of disabled children
One place that I know a lot of people look to is their place of employment.It’s not dangerous per se, but it can get you in trouble with harassment types of issues.On the flip side, if you ask someone out, they also have the right to say no.Disability Scoop: How can you tell if they are interested in you?You need to say, “look, I just don’t think we should be dating anymore.” But I know how hard that is.Also, if you have people you feel really comfortable with, who would be good as a mediator, you can invite them to come help.
Mary tackles everything from meeting that special someone to going on a date and staying safe. Check out what Mary has to say and then submit your own questions to her by clicking here.
Mary Greenfield: Sometimes just saying, “would you like to meet in the mall? ” Those types of things that say I’d like a little bit more from you. I have some folks I work with who only want to date people with disabilities. Mary Greenfield: Well, kissing and then having sex are two big stages. I think sex is a really precious part of who we are. Disability Scoop: What can you do if someone is pursuing or pressuring you who you don’t want a relationship with?
If you have a family activity, like a holiday party, and you say, “how would you like to come to the holiday party? And then I have some folks who never want to date people with disabilities but they’ve had some bad experiences of folks saying, “what is wrong with you? Disability Scoop: How does real life dating and sex compare to what you see in the movies and on TV? Kissing, usually if you get close and you feel good and that other person doesn’t back away from you if you’re trying to kiss them, then that’s probably a pretty good sign. Mary Greenfield: Well, first of all you say, “leave me alone, I don’t want a relationship with you.” But if they keep pressuring you, say it again. If they keep pressuring you, then I would say get some help.
If they go over and start talking, they may not be the greatest at conversation, but they stay there and want to continue being near each other. Then if they say, “can I get your telephone number” or, “I’d like to meet.” And they say, “yeah I’d like to do that.” Then you know they like you. Or make sure that you actually do some talking if you happen to be a really quiet person. Disability Scoop: When you look for someone to date, should you focus on people who have a disability like you or should you approach anybody who you might have common interests with? Disability Scoop: How do you know if it’s okay to kiss someone who you’re dating?
Disability Scoop: What are appropriate things to say to let someone know that you’re interested in them? Disability Scoop: Are there any topics that you should remember to stay away from? Mary Greenfield: You want somebody who’s comfortable with your disability. And how do you know if it’s okay to become more intimate and perhaps even have sex?